Sunset over the lake from the estate's deck, patio umbrella in the foreground
Gowri's birthday weekend · Havelock, Ontario

28 at the Lake

A weekend of doing very little, very well. Big porch, big water, and not much cell service.

Fri Oct 30 from 4:00 pm Sun Nov 1 by 7:00 pm 10 of us Shoreline Estate · 163 acres
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days until check-in

A birthday saloon night, a Halloween night, one birthday cake, one costume contest, a lake full of canoes and kayaks, and a cozy fire pit for when it gets cold. Everything on this page is optional except showing up in costume on Saturday.

Where we're staying

A private lakefront estate, about two hours from Toronto

An open kitchen with a marble island built for twelve, a stone fireplace, a games room with a pool table, a huge deck over the water, a dock with red Muskoka chairs, and a boat shed full of canoes, kayaks and paddleboards.

Dock with two red Adirondack chairs and a red umbrella over the lake
The dock
Wide lakeside deck with white outdoor seating
The deck
Open living and dining room with stone fireplace
Great room
Red canoe bow pointed into lily pads
Lily pads
Kitchen with long marble island and wooden stools
Kitchen
Lower-level games room with pool table and foosball
Games room
Trees wrapped in string lights over a lawn at night
Lit-up lawn
Friday · October 30

Birthday Saloon Night

Everyone rolls in after work. No rush: check-in opens at 4, the saloon opens at 7, and the cake comes out once the whole crew is here.

Sunset ≈ 6:05 pmEvening ≈ 4–8 °C
Dress code · Friday night

Cowboys & Cowgirls

Ranch-hand casual for the birthday girl's saloon. Gowri is handing out a cowboy or cowgirl hat and a red or black bandana to everyone. You bring the rest: plaids, denim, boots.

  • Straight or flare jeans, denim or suede jacket, plain white tee or tank
  • Western shirts, pearl snaps, plaid flannel
  • Cowboy or knee boots, a big belt buckle
  • Bring a warm layer. You'll end up at the fire pit.

Dress western, get +1 raffle ticket.

Group of women in cowboy hats, denim, suede jackets and boots at a ranch
Cowgirl inspo
Collage of men in western shirts, denim jackets, plaid and cowboy hats
Cowboy inspo

Inspiration via Pinterest

  1. Check-in opens

    Arrive whenever work lets you out. Claim a bed, drop your bags, and put your drinks in the fridge.

    Arrivals

  2. Welcome drinks on the deck

    Beer, wine and a pitcher of something. Grab a spot by the rail for the sunset around 6.

  3. Saddle up

    Change into your western fit and grab your hat and bandana from Gow. Hats on, boots on. Group photo in front of the stone fireplace.

  4. Saloon BBQ supper

    Long table by the fireplace. Smoky BBQ, cornbread and a lot of sides, with whiskey and a birthday cocktail at the bar. Bring your own BBQ; see the food ideas below.

    DinnerWestern dress

  5. Cake cutting & birthday toast

    Candles, the song, and a toast or two. Short speeches encouraged, roasts tolerated.

    Birthday moment

  6. Saloon karaoke & card games

    Karaoke in the great room, and it doesn't have to be country. Come ready with your go-to karaoke song. Poker played with candy at the card table for anyone saving their voice.

    Bring your song+1 raffle ticket for singing

  7. Line dancing lesson with Claire

    Claire teaches the moves in the great room. Boots strongly encouraged, two left feet welcome.

    Led by Claire+1 raffle ticket for dancing

  8. Fire pit & s'mores

    Under the string lights. Stay up until someone falls asleep sitting up.

Saturday · October 31

Lake day into Halloween night

Water in the morning, games in the afternoon, costumes at night. Clocks fall back at 2 am, so we get an extra hour of Halloween.

Sunrise ≈ 7:45 amSunset ≈ 6:05 pmDaytime ≈ 8–12 °C
Dress code · Saturday night

Come in Costume

Full effort gets rewarded. The costume contest runs right after dinner, and the winner goes home with a prize from Gowri.

Come in costume, get +1 raffle ticket.

  • Solo, duo or group costumes all count
  • Plan for a cold walk to the fire pit: capes and coats are allowed
  • Daytime is flannel-and-knits casual

  1. Coffee on the dock

    Slow breakfast in the kitchen. Coffee's on; take a mug down to the red chairs.

    Breakfast

  2. Outdoor yoga with Gowri

    The birthday girl leads a 45-minute easy flow on the lawn by the water. Wear layers; indoors in the great room if it's wet.

    Led by Gowri+1 raffle ticket

  3. Lake time

    Canoes, kayaks and paddleboards from the boat shed, or cast a line off the dock for bass. The water is cold in late October: lifejackets on, stay near shore, go in pairs.

    CanoeKayakPaddleboardFishing

  4. Harvest Table lunch

    Long lunch on the deck if it's sunny, by the fireplace if not.

    LunchFlannel & knits

  5. The Great Gowri Hunt

    Scavenger hunt across the house and grounds, with Gowri as game master. Two teams searching for things tied to the birthday girl. First team back with everything wins a prize from Gow.

    Team gameIndoor + outdoor

  6. Pool tournament & wine tasting

    Pool bracket in the games room while a few Ontario bottles get poured upstairs, with non-alcoholic sparkling options too. Hammocks for anyone who needs a break.

  7. Costume time

    Get ready. Makeup station in the great room.

  8. Potion Bar: cocktail & mocktail competition

    Four pairs get a basket of ingredients from Gow's bar and 20 minutes to make a Halloween drink. Cocktail or mocktail, your call. Gowri is head judge. Winning pair gets +2 raffle tickets each.

    • Mrinal & Connor
    • Jordan & Preston
    • Michael & Clara
    • Nush & Claire
    Judged

  9. Halloween Feast

    Candlelit dinner in costume. Bring your own; ideas below.

    DinnerIn costume

  10. Costume contest & raffle draw

    Everyone walks the "runway" through the great room, then we vote by secret ballot. Raffle draw right after.

    Prizes

  11. Ghost stories at the fire pit

    Blankets, hot chocolate and the scariest story wins. Clocks go back an hour at 2 am.

Sunday · November 1

Pyjama brunch & one last paddle

Clocks fell back overnight, so everyone gets an extra hour of sleep. Nothing is scheduled before 10.

Standard time resumesSunset ≈ 4:55 pm
Dress code · Sunday brunch

Pyjamas

Come to brunch in whatever you slept in. Matching sets get respect.

  1. Pyjama brunch

    Everyone cooks their brunch together. Mimosa bar by Gow.

    Brunch

  2. Last lake hours

    One more paddle, a round of pool, or a hammock and a book.

  3. Group photo on the dock

    All of us on and around the red chairs.

  4. Pack up & tidy

    Many hands: kitchen, bedrooms, fire pit, boat shed. Leftovers get split up.

  5. Carpools head home

    Back in Toronto before dark. Text the group chat when you're home.

Games & prizes

How the competitions work

Every guest gets one raffle ticket at check-in. You can earn more over the weekend. All draws happen Saturday night after the costume contest.

Log cabin porch decorated for fall with pumpkins and hay bales

The Great Gowri Hunt

Saturday 2:30 pm · 8 hunters · 2 teams · about an hour

  • Bounty HuntersPreston, Claire, Michael & Mrinal
  • Night OwlsJordan, Clara, Connor & Nush
  1. Gowri is game master: she hides everything and hands out the clue cards. Items are inside the house and around the grounds.
  2. Every item connects to Gowri: a baby photo, a photo of Nala, her go-to snack, a souvenir from a past trip, a question only a real friend can answer.
  3. Take a team photo with each find. Don't move the items for the other teams.
  4. First team back to the deck with all items wins a prize from Gow.
Pool table in the games room

Pool tournament

Saturday 4:00 pm · 9 players · 4 teams · single elimination

  • Birthday BanditsGowri & Connor
  • Corner Pocket CowboysNush & Clara
  • Rack CityMrinal & Preston
  • Triple ThreatMichael, Claire & Jordan
Semis
Bandits v Triple Threat
Cowboys v Rack City
Final
The two semi winners

Couples are split up on purpose. Triple Threat rotates shooters. Winners get +2 raffle tickets each.

String lights in the trees at night

Costume contest & raffle

Saturday 9:00 pm · great room

  • Best costume wins the main prize, by secret ballot. You can't vote for yourself.
  • Honourable mentions for scariest, funniest and best group.
  • Earn raffle tickets: 1 at check-in, +1 for dressing western on Friday, +1 for wearing a costume on Saturday, +1 for yoga, +2 for winning the pool final, +2 for the winning Potion Bar pair, +1 for singing at Friday's karaoke, +1 for joining Claire's line dancing.
Logistics

Getting there & what to bring

Address

Shoreline Estate, Havelock, Ontario. About 2 hours from Toronto.

1633 County Rd 46, Havelock, ON

Cell service is patchy once you're close. Download your map offline before you leave the city.

Timing & cost

  • Check-in Friday from 4:00 pm
  • Everyone out by Sunday afternoon
  • $170 per person covers both nights
  • Carpools: Gowri can drive four. Sort out rides in the group chat.

Pack this

  • Plaids, denim, boots and other western pieces for Friday (hat and bandana provided)
  • Halloween costume for Saturday night
  • Pyjamas you'll be seen in
  • Your own food and snacks for the weekend
  • A blanket or cozy throw for the fire pit
  • Warm layers, toque, gloves, rain jacket
  • Shoes that can get wet, plus slippers
  • Yoga mat if you have one
  • Headlamp or flashlight for the fire pit path
  • Your go-to karaoke song, any genre